Something has been bothering me for a while. Do you ever wish you’d reacted in a moment differently to the way you did and then afterwards keep reliving the moment in your head?
This particular incident happened a couple of months ago and I’m still screwing about it now! So…if I remember rightly I’d had a pretty busy week and it was a Friday and I’d popped to town to do some jobs. I decided to stop off at a coffee shop for a latte and some cake. I never used to drink coffee but then I discovered latte and even better…latte with syrup! My preference is hazelnut syrup and I treat myself with a cup once or twice a week (you only need to check out my Instagram feed to see how much I love them!). Anyway, I queued up in the coffee shop and I ordered a piece of lemon cake and a skinny hazelnut latte. The man behind the counter sniggered…he actually sniggered…and said “it kind of defeats the point doesn’t it?”. I’m sorry what? “Well, what’s the point in having it skinny if you’re going to have syrup and cake?”. This is the point at which I WISH I’d thought of something witty to say! Instead I asked if they had any sugar free syrup, which they didn’t. A second staff member then piped up and told me that skinny milk actually has more sugar in it so it made my choice even worse! So what did I do? I changed my order to a full fat latte with no syrup (I kept the cake because…well, it’s cake), thanked them for my lesson in nutrition and sat down to have something that I didn’t order and didn’t want.
Things I should have said:
- “And this is your business, how?”
- “Keep your sodding coffee and overpriced cake and I’ll go next door to Costa where I can order what I want without being judged”
- “What qualifications do you have in nutrition to be able to impart this sort of advice to total strangers?”
- “What’s your problem? Do I look like I need to lose weight? Am I fat?” Followed by loud sobbing and running out of the shop!
There are a million things I could have said, but I just sat there seething! I didn’t enjoy my coffee or cake, it was no longer a treat and I couldn’t wait to leave. I have never been back to that coffee shop and never will – they’ve lost my custom, I just hope they don’t make anyone else feel as crappy as I did that day.
It got me thinking though…everyone seems to be a nutritional expert these days. There’s always someone ready to impart their knowledge of what you should and shouldn’t be eating. One moment we are supposed to be cutting fat out of our diet and the next it’s sugar. Now we should be eating some fats but not others and PROTEIN is the buzz word. Every other item you buy in the supermarket at the moment has ‘ADDED PROTEIN’ plastered all over the packaging but then has ridiculous amounts of sugar in it that we shouldn’t be eating! Is there any wonder that the population is getting bigger and bigger. Obesity is at it’s highest level and I can totally see why!
I’m an intelligent woman, I know what’s healthy and what’s not and I’m old enough to make informed decisions about what I want to eat. If I want to have something loaded with sugar then I can…I just have to deal with the consequences! I eat pretty sensibly most of the time but occasionally have times when I eat like a pig because I want to. I know when things get out of hand and am fully capable of making that decision on my own and cutting back when it’s needed. Did the sugar police stop me from drinking skinny hazelnut lattes? Hell no! I just drink them elsewhere! I wonder how someone who was a little less confident or who was perhaps overweight might have felt if they had been told they shouldn’t be having what they’d ordered? How would you have felt? Would you have been braver and spoken up? Stuck with your order or changed it? I so wish I’d reacted differently but if it ever happens again I’m armed with an arsenal of great come-backs! Arghhh! It makes me so mad!!
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