Good morning! Welcome to a new week and a new Monday Motivation post to get you onto a great start. We’ve had a fairly quiet weekend. Archie went off on his Duke of Edinburgh training expedition on Saturday and came home very wet and very muddy! My washing machine hasn’t stopped since he returned! I did have a huge fail though when I cleaned his trainers in the sink (yes I know he should’ve been doing it himself but he needed them for school today and if I’d left it to him they would still be wet, muddy and in a carrier bag this time next year!). I thought I had got all the mud out so put them in the tumble drier to get the worst of the water out before hanging them outside to dry, only to open the tumble drier to find the inside completely coated in mud! That’ll teach me to try to cut corners! Other than that it’s been a pretty uneventful weekend. I did manage to pack away all my Winter clothes and unpack and hang up my Spring/Summer ones which was a job that definitely needed doing. I think a shopping trip is needed after payday to update my wardrobe now!
Today’s Monday Motivation is something I’ve been mulling over for a while and something I definitely struggle with and that’s being kind to myself. I beat myself up about a lot of things and am constantly inwardly telling myself I’m not good enough, I should give up and I shouldn’t be doing things which I know is not in the slightest bit helpful. It’s something I have always struggled with as I have never truly believed in my abilities, but it has certainly got worse over the last few years. In my previous job I constantly worried that I was completely rubbish and every time my boss would go into an office with the other company director and shut the door I always presumed they were talking about how awful I was! Then whenever he came into the office we shared and shut the door I always thought he was going to sack me! He didn’t, I left before that happened!
Even in my current job, where I feel a lot more confident and ‘at home’, I am still constantly waiting for that phone call or email telling me I’ve done something wrong. An email came through from my boss the other day and I read the first line in my notifications that said “I’ve just had x (a client) on the phone…” and my heart sank as I assumed someone had complained about me. When I opened the email it was just a request for a job to be done – absolutely nothing for me to worry about. I know it’s ridiculous but I am constantly on edge and I know I just need to be kind to myself and give myself a break.
Life in general can be stressful for everyone but belief in your abilities and in what you can achieve is so important when it comes to good mental health. I know I can’t continue constantly worrying about what people might or might not say about me and hopefully as time goes on I will gain confidence in my role and feel like I’m actually worthy of a bit of praise!
Being kind to yourself can take many forms, from reminding yourself that you’re worthy of your position and your achievements, taking care of yourself by allowing time off from time to time or simply treating yourself every now and then. Our inner voice is the strongest and can often be the most critical. If you are constantly criticising and being mean to yourself how can you ever be happy? Imagine if an actual person was stood in front of you saying those things to you? How would you react? How would it make you feel? If you wouldn’t accept that sort of talk from someone else, why should you accept it from yourself.
So this week, why not practice being kind to yourself. Love yourself a little bit more and be a positive inner voice. Tell yourself how great you are and what a great job you did. Tell yourself you look amazing as you walk out of the door in the morning and give yourself a pat on the back when you get home. I’m going to try to change my inner voice and lock those negative thoughts well away!
Have a great week 🙂